Relationships are the essence of human connection, the foundation upon which our lives are built. They are meant to nurture, uplift, and support us through life's ups and downs. But what happens when these essential connections turn toxic? A toxic relationship, characterized by insecurity, self-centeredness, dominance, and control, can cast a dark cloud upon our lives, leaving us drained, hurt, and lost, totally separated from our inner knowing.

“ A toxic relationship is one that makes you feel unsupported, misunderstood, demeaned or attacked”

Although we all understand the definition of a toxic relationship on an intellectual level, what proves to be truly challenging is the ability to identify these toxic dynamics when we are living within them. The very fact that we are involved and entrenched in the relationship's intricate web makes it very difficult to recognise the toxicity beneath the surface.

Drawing from my personal experience, I've come to realise that toxic relationships can have different degrees of toxicity which makes understanding the situation really difficult, narrowing our perspective of life, and creating damage on our confidence. Sometimes it feels as if we were in a small space where little light comes through and there is a long long way to the exit.

Yet, in order to embark on a path of growth and healing, we must find the courage to confront and examine our relationships honestly.

To truly become aware of the toxic elements entwined within our relationships, we need the precious gifts of space and time. WE need enough time and space to observe our relationships and get to know our own feelings about them.

Only by creating a safe and supportive environment, away from the confusion of our toxic bonds, can we confidently look into the heart of the matter. It is within this space that we can finally shed light on the intricate layers of our relationship dynamics, and start gaining some little perspective.

It is our human nature to weave narratives that protect our fragile egos and shield us from the harsh realities we sometimes have to acknowledge . This is precisely why we must turn to trusted allies who can provide not only an objective perspective but also an open heart so we can recover some inner trust and self confidence.

Whether it be a therapist, a close friend, or a wise confidant, having someone to offer guidance and reflect upon our experiences can prove to be just what we need to guide us back to clarity.

Untangling a web of toxicity is a difficult and painful task, a task that we cannot undertake alone. As desperate as we may be for independence and self-reliance, it is essential to recognize that looking for support , speaking up, is not a sign of weakness but rather a testament to our strength and commitment to our own well-being and the wellbeing of those we love and value our friendship.